Oral sex is a lot of fun, but it can also be intense. Having the ability to last longer during a blowjob is essential for building sexual stamina.
Many couples use oral sex as foreplay before vaginal or anal penetration. Others enjoy it as an act on its own or even after sex.
1. Keep it slow
Whether you’re a woman or man who enjoys oral sex, the ability to last longer during your blowjob is a valuable skill. Not only does it make the act more intense, but it also translates to real anal sex and makes you a more capable lover overall.
One simple way to increase your stamina during oral sex is to slow down your pace. While it’s tempting to speed up during the homestretch, it can lead to pain and frustration for both of you. If you’re feeling yourself rushing towards the edge of orgasm, try telling your partner to slow down or stop, and focus on pleasuring other areas of her body, like the balls or inner thighs, for added pleasure.
Another way to make your sex last is by using lube. Flavored lube can add to the sensations of oral sex, and it can also be used to explore other erogenous zones on your body. For example, by taking your tongue to the raphe (the ridge on the underside of your shaft), you can lick and stroke your penis for an orgasm that’s both head and mouth-based.
Lastly, you can use a dildo to tease the opening of your shaft, and then gradually insert it for extra stimulation. Once he’s there, you can continue to lick and stroke him with your hands for an orgasm that’s both ejaculatory and vaginal.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask for a break
A big part of what makes a man sexy is confidence. If she knows you’re in charge and want her to feel good, she may be more willing to last longer. But don’t go overboard – it’s still her body and she should be able to control what happens.
For example, if you’re giving her oral sex, don’t just lay back lifelessly with your arms behind your head. Try a more active position, like standing up and sucking her head. This allows you to vary the tempo of your sucking and increase or decrease the amount of pressure. Plus, it can make her moan and pant, which is a major turn on.
Similarly, when you know she’s close to orgasming, stop stimulating her and slow down your blow job. This will help her enjoy the sensation for longer and increase the chances that she orgasms again during sex.
Remember, though, that while most women love getting a blowjob, they don’t necessarily think of it as the main act of sex. It’s often just a step of foreplay to get her ready for penetration. That’s why it’s important to practice lasting longer during oral sex. By improving your stamina in one area, you’ll automatically do better in other areas, too. This includes sexual foreplay, like licking and caressing her cock before penetration.
3. Make it fun
If you’re looking to add some extra excitement into your blowjob, consider making it a game. Lick and kiss him as he’s sucking away and try to outdo yourself with each new stroke, or try the lipstick technique—running your lips over his penis’ outline, says Velvet Co. sexpert Julieta Chiara. It triggers pleasure sensors in the back of his throat, and sends a rush of sensations down his shaft.
It can also feel super sexy to moan during a blowjob, which is sure to get him hard and horny. Or, try licking other parts of his body—like his balls or inner thighs—which can send vibrations up and down his penis and make him harder than ever.
But don’t forget that it’s still oral sex, and he’ll need time to orgase from the experience. “It takes an average of five to seven minutes for men to go from a bJ to orgasm,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner.
Make it last by alternating between licking, sucking, and stroking—and don’t be afraid to take a break. It can be exhausting for her to keep her head up and her eyes closed while she’s doing a mouth-job—especially if you’re alternating between the two of you. Sit on a pillow (yes, there are sex pillows for this), lie down in bed, or grab a sexy blanket to make her more comfortable and boost her mood.
4. Make it last
A good blowjob isn’t just about length. It’s about intensity and what you do during the experience that makes it pleasurable, whether you’re giving or receiving.
The more you know your partner, the easier it is to find a position that’s going to work for both of you during oral sex. And it’s also important to communicate what you want and need from each session.
For example, if you’re not into deep-throating during oral sex but are keen on toys that can take it to another level, it’s up to you to let your partner know. And don’t feel afraid to ask for a break. “If you’re not getting orgasmed, it’s okay to stop,” says sexpert Julieta Chiara from Velvet Co.
Another way to increase the pleasure during a blowjob is by using the underside of your tongue in addition to the top side. It provides a different texture and can feel intensely pleasurable.
For men, masturbating before sex helps to relieve the pressure on your engorged prostate and can help you last longer in bed. It’s also a great idea to take a few deep breaths and relax your body during oral sex to prevent premature ejaculation.
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