Many people have insecurities about their penis size, but a small one doesn’t necessarily limit pleasure. “Size really doesn’t matter,” sex educator Sheri Winston says.
Try a modified missionary position with your partner. This lets you push deeply and allows the woman to reach her clitoris with your small penis.
1. Be confident
It’s well-known that bigger isn’t always better, and the same can be said for penis size. Men who have smaller penises often worry that they’ll be unable to please their sexual partners and that intercourse will be painful. But the truth is, most pleasure-seeking partners couldn’t care less about how big or small a man’s dick is.
The most important step is for those who have small penises to be confident about their abilities and not let their insecurities get in the way of having a great sex life. And that’s not easy, but it is possible to overcome a fear of intimacy by practicing the right positions and incorporating other methods for penetration (such as oral sex or anal sex).
Sheaths and penis extenders are available for men who want to feel more substantial, and there are plenty of toys designed to give both men and women a sensation of deep penetration. In addition, there are a variety of anal positions that are appropriate for those with any penis size. A woman on top can also add a level of pleasure for her partner by using her pelvic muscles to push her penis up into the vagina.
2. Talk to your partner
The good news is that penis size doesn’t have much of a effect on sexual pleasure for the majority of people. However, there are some men that find it harder to climax because of a smaller penis.
Talking to your partner can help them feel more confident in the bedroom and make it a safe place for both of you. Reassure them that your penis is perfectly fine and that it doesn’t affect how well you have sex together.
Also, sex is about more than just penetrative sex. Oral sex, massage, and other forms of touch can also be extremely satisfying.
Finally, sex toys can also be very pleasing for partners with small penises. Using toys that give more length and width can make penetration feel more intense. And there are also sex toys that can be used with both men and women to enhance pleasure, the Daily Dot reports.
3. Be flexible
It can be tempting to get hung up on penis size, but you should focus more on making the experience as intimate and exciting as possible. “Don’t be afraid to experiment with different positions that make you feel more genital-to-genital,” says Winston. “A small penis can actually be an asset in some ways.”
Try doing doggy style, a classic that allows for great penetration depth and tightness, as well as targeting the g-spot on her front vagina. This position has her lay back and bring her legs up to her chest or shoulders (depending on how flexible she is). Then he enters from behind, either draping one of his arms over hers for entry or resting them against hers.
A modified version of missionary is another good option that targets the g-spot, but also gives her the sensation of being engulfed by him. For this, she lies down and he places his knees in between her legs. Then he squats over top to thrust in and out, stimulating the g-spot as well as her anus.
4. Be creative
From apple watches to paper-thin laptops, it’s safe to say that small is in. But when it comes to penises, bigger isn’t always better. In fact, the average penis is only 5.2 inches long when fully erect.
For men with smaller penises, creativity can be a game-changer. “The most important thing is that you take advantage of other areas of pleasure,” says sex expert Searah Deysach, owner of pleasure-product company Early to Bed. Foreplay, oral sex, and stroking the clitoris during intercourse can all add up to orgasms that are as satisfying as those of men with larger dicks.
One of the best sex positions for small penises is called the “modified missionary position,” which has both partners get on their knees with their legs spread wide, like doing a squat. This enables deeper penetration and gives the crotch more space to feel. It also lets you stroke the clitoris, which can be especially pleasurable for some women. The fetal position is another great option, which involves her lying in your lap with your hands placed on her hips to lift her legs up in the air.
5. Use your hands
It can be easy to get caught up in the idea that sex is all about penetration and penis size, but this is a mindset that can kill arousal. Besides, his penis is an integral part of his body, and making him feel bad about it can be hurtful.
In fact, if he’s smaller than average, that could be an advantage in some positions. “Back entry is great for guys with small penises, since it allows for deeper insertion,” sex educator Searah Deysach tells Bustle. Plus, it’s also a great way to bring in other body parts for stimulation—such as the anus and coccyx.
To try back-entry sex, have your partner lie on their back with their legs straddled together in reverse cowgirl position. Then, place a pillow under their butt to angle his penis up. This will help him ride and spin her, which can lead to orgasms without penetration. Just make sure to use the right pillow or he might not like it. (Hint: soft and squishy works best.) It’s also important to have your partner keep his hands busy, squeezing the thighs and tightening the stomach to increase arousal.
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